because guess what. relationships are work. they require maintenance and generally speaking, putting another person's well being before your own (another reason why i see marriage as great practice for parenting...heh).
i also laugh at folks when they ask me for relationship advice. you see, many of my friends are not married. some are yes, some are also in long term relationships, or even a brand-new fresh relationship (ohhhh butterflies!). some are even just in the mist of the insane pain of heartache....yet somehow, i find them asking me for advice or dishing to me their latest struggles. i've written about this before, but again, guess what....just because i managed to convince a dude to spend the rest of his life with me, does not mean i have it all (or anything for that matter) figured out in the relationship department. in fact, marriage has taught me quite the opposite...that i, have a whole crap ton to learn about relationships.
this exceptionally random rant comes from this picture and quote i found on pinterest many a moon ago. my mama recently posted it again on fb and i think that it sends quite a clear message. so many individuals attempt to find another in order to fill this void in their personal life, to serve their own need. and that, although seemingly a benefit of a relationship is so far from what a relationship is all about. in fact, it's absolutely, down right heart breaking to folks when they go in and out of disappointing relationship after disappointing relationship in attempt to serve their needs, rather than the other's.
please do not take ANY of this rant as me saying, "you are to ignore yourself and no longer take care of your needs once in a relationship. you will never be in a successful relationship if you don't give up everything you need and want for another." because that is far from what i am saying. it is so far it makes me laugh...much like the "easy relationship" concept...heheheheh. anywho, the picture/quote...
quote reads, "some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something. they're trying to find someone who's going to make them feel good. in reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take"
thanks, anthony robbins.